About withholding sex ...

I used to be the queen of holding out while dating. It took me two years to give it up to my first boyfriend - I was a virgin so that kind of makes sense - and the second boyfriend had to wait about nine months.Then after that, it was a while with not sex because they never waited. They stopped calling after a month of waiting. 

Then I turned 23 and decided perhaps I was missing out on sex so I had my first one night stand and it was like an illumination: feelings were not needed to have amazing sex. That day was the day my holding out days were over forever. If you were hot, had a minimum of a sense of humor, that was it. No questions asked, no numbers exchanged, just pure fun. 

However, if I cared about a guy, I would hold out ... Call me crazy but I wanted to be sure he would call me back, even though some of my guys friends told me that they would not call back a girl who withheld sex for longer than two weeks. One friend said "withholding sex is the best way to get me to never call you back and ignore your messages" and another said "I don't like when the girl plays hard to get." 

But I didn't really care. I had a bunch of guy friends who said the opposite, and I decided to listen to them. 

However, these mixed opinions make it really hard for a girl to know what to do, even though it seems unfair that at this modern age, a girl still gets judged by her piers for a one night stand whereas guys get a high five from their buddies.  

But my point here, or shall I say my question is why do women in a relationship withhold sex? It just seems pretty stupid to me. First off, you are burning calories while having sex and since most girls are always trying to lose weight, well it seems stupid to kill yourself on a cardio machine when you could be having sex instead. And like Jamie said, you are kind of punishing yourself.

Random question: do you enjoy giving blowjobs or do you hate it?

 So why do girls do that? Have you ever had guy withhold sex from you? 

As for my slowing l like you said, I will not listen, will I? On the upside, I am away for 4 days, back for a day, and then gone for about 8 to spend time at the beach with my parents. So that should slow things down on its own, right? 

Get some sleep - both of you. 

LITTLE.BRAINS. 

Throwing stuff at people

Whatever is meant to happen will happen, but what do you think will happen? What is your favorite outcome? Slice P... in small slices for revenge? Or throw stuff at him? 

My cousins hate that we are back together too. I am not sure who hates him more: you or them. You guys could start a group and split the cost for my North Korea flight so it is not too hard on your wallet. PS: you do know I fly for free, right? 

About high school, I totally understand what you mean. Don't get me wrong, I was not friendless. But I was kind of friends with very different people from very different cliques, but I never felt like I belong in any specific clique. I was my own clique. Me and my million brains :) 

Hope nights are going well my dear. 

As of me, my night with P.... was pretty great. I know this doesn't make for very interesting blogging - dishes flying would have been more entertaining but that's all I got. However, I am sure some drama will come up soon. It is not like anything is really simple between P.... and I. 

And now that I think about it, I do have something to share about last night. P.... finally admitted that him breaking up with me was a completely lunatic reaction and that all the "reasons" he fed me were bullshit. I know this should scare me 'cause it means he could break up with me this afternoon with no notice whatsoever, but I kind of feel relieved to know that it had nothing to do with me. Am I crazy? Should I have been throwing stuff at him last night? 

It does look kind of fun, doesn't it? 

LITTLE.BRAINS. 

Some days I just want to scream

I hate those kind of people, the 'I will do it myself' kind. I hope the job gets better my dear ... or perhaps you can just kill her. Yes I am being a little extreme, but I am kind of annoyed at people right now. 

After two hours on the runway waiting for our slot to take off, this woman decided to go to the bathroom, which made us lose your spot - and made us delayed for another hour. Then she had the nerve to ask me if I had any medication for her  urinary tract infection. Too much information lady! 

Then this other lady screamed at me because, once again, I had designed the plane the wrong way and her bag didn't fit. Ahhhhh! I wanted to scream back at her so badly! And of course the usual pissed off passenger who didn't get his choice between chicken and pasta. Again sir, we ran out of chicken, not fuel. Relax! 

I am also over ME and my stupid brain that doesn't know what it wants: one second  I want to change my phone number, move to another city and start a  clean slate, the other I want to go on a date with Matt - cute guy I met on the plane - and then for the most part, there is my ex in my head who is being so sweet and wants to cook etc etc ... ! AHHHHHH! Makes me want to scream at myself. 

PS: answers to your questions my dear: 

- The Penis was in Paris for a job interview. 

- And since we are officially not a couple - 'cause we don't text all the time - I figured I was off the hook for North Korea. Apparently I was wrong, on both counts. Seems like he thinks he is back into the boyfriend zone, and it seems you are still intent on sending me away. 

Not relevant whatsoever, but I couldn't find anything that was , so voila :) 

LITTLE.BRAINS.

Sex but no text :p

Yes dear,

We have been spending more nights together than apart. But there is no texting really happening.

Tonight is an off-night for me. I am back in NYC and the Penis is still in Paris, and I feel great. I am not even sure if I do miss him or not.

So not a couple is my answer meaning no North Korea for me :)

Going to crash now - not enough sleep in Paris.

Let me know how your first Monday goes!

Xoxo

LITTLE.BRAINS.

The rebound

Relationships are complicated, and not easy to deal with. I think that's something we can all agree on.

And as much as our friends are always trying to be there for us, to help us navigate through those complications, it seems to me they usually make it so much worse 'cause usually none of them agree, which only further complicates the inital problem you are facing. 

He cheated: do you forgive him or not? Your sister says forgive him, your best friend says don't. Who do you listen to? 

She slept with you on the first date: does it make her a slut or was the night's chemistry really special? Your brother says don't call  her back, your best friend asks if the sex was good. What do you do? 

You broke up less than a month ago, and you are dating.  All of your friends are concerned: too early to date again according to them.  Are they right or wrong? 

My opinion: they are wrong 'cause life is too short. I know this sounds cliche, but who cares. 

I just got back from a 5 day trip with what my friends called my rebound.

My ex and I only broke up in March, and yes we occasionally still have sex,  but that's not the point, that will be an entire  post on its own, probably written by B, my blogging and crime partner - who is threatening to send me to North Korea if I have sex with my ex one more time --> there will be a compilation of her threatening emails coming soon.

Anyhow, my point is that my rebound was loads of fun. We went to Iceland together and had a blast. I didn't fall madly in love with him - mainly because he got mad at me for not knowing what pop-tarts were and not liking sprinkles - I do like Skittles a lot though.  And I am not in a fragile state where I need to see him to keep myself from thinking about my ex. He was a fun distraction - the sex was really great and completely feelings-free and now I am over him.  

So why is everyone always warning against rebounds? What is so terrible about rebounds? 

Is this better? 

Hot guy Vs. cat ... I think I made the right choice.

LITTLE.BRAINS.