Monogamy: natural or not?

Girl's night got a little wild. A friend of mine - who is in a relationship - almost kissed a guy. When I say almost, I mean the guy was literally a few inches of her mouth ... I want to believe that she stopped for the right reason, if I wasn't around to pull her hand, the chances of her ending up in his  bed the next morning would have been pretty high. 

Laetitia did - I guess -  the right thing, and told her boyfriend. She claims she loves him and wants to make things work, and that's why she told him. He forgave her and they both agreed on working on the relationship. 

Now if you were the culprit, would you have come clean? I mean if there is no way for your significant other to know about your indiscretion, do you risk it all in the name of honesty or not? 

Or do you think sex can really be separated from love? 

I used to think of sex in a very romantic way - only with my husband, after our wedding, and voila. I changed. I had sex before marriage. I had sex without being in love. I even had one night stands - not many - but still, I did. I used to believe in monogamy as well, but now I wonder ... Is monogamy natural?

I read a bunch of articles - some feel really bad about cheating, some don't ... some felt no guilt whatsoever -- is it because they didn't really love their partner? Or is life just complicated and very gray, with no white or black answers to every question ...

BOYS: true or false? 

No Trigger - Pure MADNESS

That's why I was so worried. Because of the lack of trigger. He did nothing wrong. He cooked, he was sweet, perfection, but I felt something was wrong. 

Maybe I felt like I was reliving the past. Same apartment, same routine, same conversations about Argentina, so why not the same break up?  Everything was perfect last time around too, until the day he completely turned on me and broke up. Maybe I am getting scared that we are getting to that point again. Maybe the relationship is moving to quick again? For him ... for me ... for both. Who knows? 

Anyhow, whatever it was, it was still going on this morning, and then POUF, it disappeared magically from one second to another. Completely gone! 

Perhaps it was the cooking or the rollerblading, or maybe my hormones are just calming down and my sanity is back, but I feel fine right now.  At least I think so. I haven't seen him yet. 

PS: so glad I can vent to you guys without really needing to justify myself 

 - Hope you both get some good sleep soon 

And about that jerk, f*** him and his attitude - and his small penis 

The Penis is coming to Paris

Congrats for the job my dear ... Many penis  men around you at work .... Any hot ones? 

So what is the definition of a couple to you? 

Dinner date. CHECK. 

Double date at comedy show.  CHECK. 

Drinks with friends. CHECK.  

Sex - multiple times. CHECK. 

Cuddle after sex. CHECK. 

Text all day. CHECK. 

Grab macaroons in the middle of work day. CHECK. 

Movies. CHECK. 

Dinner with best friend. CHECK. 

Sex, again. CHECK.

Using the word "couple." CHECK.

But I am still claiming to be single.

Me being delusional. CHECK.
Him acting like we never broke up. CHECK. 

Everyone around us saying we are nuts. CHECK. 

But I am not really worried about any of it. 

See we are not even really together, so we cannot really break up, and even if we did, it cannot be worse than the first time around when I totally got blindsided. I wasn't the least prepared to the break up, it wasn't easy for a few days ... Ok maybe it was more than just a few days, but I survived just fine.

So really, right now, it just seems to be a waste of energy to think about what will happen when it all goes to hell. I will just run to another country with another hot stranger. Or perhaps I will run to England since a good friend of mine promised me mojitos :) 

Off to Paris in about 2 hours, and the Penis is coming with. Don't ask how this happened. I don't know. 

But my cousin has a date planned for me in Paris so .... well  .... it should be interesting. 

Congrats again on the job dear! 

PS: how is the bird? 

LITTLE.BRAINS. 

The rebound

Relationships are complicated, and not easy to deal with. I think that's something we can all agree on.

And as much as our friends are always trying to be there for us, to help us navigate through those complications, it seems to me they usually make it so much worse 'cause usually none of them agree, which only further complicates the inital problem you are facing. 

He cheated: do you forgive him or not? Your sister says forgive him, your best friend says don't. Who do you listen to? 

She slept with you on the first date: does it make her a slut or was the night's chemistry really special? Your brother says don't call  her back, your best friend asks if the sex was good. What do you do? 

You broke up less than a month ago, and you are dating.  All of your friends are concerned: too early to date again according to them.  Are they right or wrong? 

My opinion: they are wrong 'cause life is too short. I know this sounds cliche, but who cares. 

I just got back from a 5 day trip with what my friends called my rebound.

My ex and I only broke up in March, and yes we occasionally still have sex,  but that's not the point, that will be an entire  post on its own, probably written by B, my blogging and crime partner - who is threatening to send me to North Korea if I have sex with my ex one more time --> there will be a compilation of her threatening emails coming soon.

Anyhow, my point is that my rebound was loads of fun. We went to Iceland together and had a blast. I didn't fall madly in love with him - mainly because he got mad at me for not knowing what pop-tarts were and not liking sprinkles - I do like Skittles a lot though.  And I am not in a fragile state where I need to see him to keep myself from thinking about my ex. He was a fun distraction - the sex was really great and completely feelings-free and now I am over him.  

So why is everyone always warning against rebounds? What is so terrible about rebounds? 

Is this better? 

Hot guy Vs. cat ... I think I made the right choice.

LITTLE.BRAINS.